I agree 100% with the OP.
I have been playing BGs since the day they were implemented, and before that I was pushing and tugging in Tarren Mill - Southshore
Once there was 0 penalty involved in actually afking out of a BG, which people took advantage of and left the rest with uneven battles on their hands.
I have NEVER, not ONCE, gave up.
It's not because I don't want honor, it's not because I am not chilled out, it's because in all these years of playing this game, the stories that remain are those that we managed to win against all odds. Heck, I even have a couple that we lost that stick out.
Like the time EVERYONE else afked against a premade and I remained alone in AB. So I kneeled at farm and waited as the alliance capped base after base and finally pouring in from every direction. The second the first alliance was in range, I charged and did everything in my power to not let them cap the farm. I failed. But as I was charging and fearing and whirling, they mind controlled me and one by one started saluting me.
Or the time we were 3v10 in wsg against a premade, they entered the flag room and saw the other 2 sitting in front of the flag. I actually went and picked theirs. The promptly killed me and then decided to fool around and as the other 2 in my team started dancing for them in front of our flag, so most of them got naked and danced in front of the flag with them while their... fully clothed runner was capping flags.
Warrior vs 0 Armor and stats. Oh yeah.
I went to our roof so that I could check things out before being instagibbed, saw what was happening and dropped in via air charge. Slaughtered some before they killed me. As I spawned, I did the exact same thing, only this time I get MCed and spammed with "L2P YOU FECKING EBAYER" emotes by their team leader. A NE with nothing but his fancy pants on.
At this point, their FC was running the flag alone, so I go after him and I return the flag twice (at 2-0).
By now I was really getting on their nerves, but for some reason they kept trying to troll me.
Their team leader and two more decide to escort the final flag home. Only they still wanted to kill me with their panties on. So I attack and through all the CC and slows and whatever I manage to kill the EFC, return the flag, kill one of the crazy naked people, and getting their team leader down to 5% before they manage to kill me, all the while emoting me like mad.
And as I lied there, their team leader realized that he has deep wounds and rend on him. And that he is on his +0 stamina thong.
I still remember the frantic running around of this NE in a thong as he tried to find a way to survive through the dots. There was none.
After that they proceeded to gank the hell out of me with all their might, actually postponing their win on my behalf.
You know what? I don't even remember that, what I remember is my warrior's Arcanite Reaper... reaping their naked arses and a NE in a thong moving erratically in all directions for dear life, before going facedown.
Then again, I was on an RP-PVP server back then, we were crazy like that.
But let me get back to what I am trying to say.
Even with my "never give up" mentality I gear up pretty easily nowadays, honor points are pretty easy to come by and not giving up might slow down my honor point gain by 2% but the potential for fun is worth more than that.
Gear will come and go, all I care about when it comes to gear is that I have a fighting chance. The rest is just lay back and have some danged fun. Even when losing, even when the tank has 4 healers on him and never goes below 90% HP. Who cares, I have fun trying to find a way to beat that, and if I don't, oh well, I did my best.
Random BG battles are RULED by mob mentality. And for 9 out of 10 battles, mob mentality is what wins or loses the game. Not gear, not individual skill. Now, each time you take the time to type "just loose", first of all you are making no sense because loose is the opposite of tight and second of all, you are influencing said mob mentality a great deal towards losing.
The reason you lose is because you are not trying to win. Pretty obvious eh? The thing is if you are actively trying to win and fail, then it's on you. YOU tried and failed. And there are a great deal of people out there that can't handle that and instead chose to stand apart of the rest of the team adopting the mentality "It's everyone else's fault we are losing". And they need you to know that. So they type and type and type, never realizing that in the end they contributed most in losing than any other member of the team.
Do I get farmed at GY? Sure. Just yestarday on my mage I played a nice streak of 3 BGs where the entire team scored 1-5 HK. Not killing blows, HKs, as in the total amount of deaths the alliance had. But I have also played games where I was on the other end. So big whoop, who cares.
TL;DR: Don't chat about giving up. It's bad for winning.