I think one of the biggest obstacles is...Myself?
I mean, I have confidence in the negatives and I'm already pretty critical of others' things so I'm a bit "oh ffff are they judging me" right off the bat. Doesn't help that my characters have a habit of being the same bouncy outcast at the end of the day with an accumulation of weird !@#$ I should really trim back.
It's like looking in to a mirror.so this is what it's like when doves cry
Okay, seriously, yes. I tend to find the major thing that ruins RP for me is me and my insecurities in regard to it. And above all else, it also doesn't help when people say "just get over that!". It's really not all easy.
I have been getting better about it, though! While I do notice I tend to go back in to a shell at times, especially when trying a new toon, it does become easier the more I muscle along; more so with the encouragement of a nice circle of friends and a great partner.
I guess some other things that, while not ruining RP for me, can make an evening of it uncomfortable or go as far as to put me off names if I see it regularly are:
-Rigidity: By this I mean when we move past respecting and working with and to lore and enter that sort of absurd territory where reasonable additions, bends or elaborations are squashed. But I realise there is that line, of course, as certain things, situations, ideas, slang terms and so on certainly don't make sense! It's a hard one to really balance, I suppose.
-Entitlement: RP's odd. It's this big collaborative effort and ideally everyone has input as much as they wish to have it. But what can be awkward is that mindset where every RP situation, event and storyline has to benefit them primarily regardless of whether that means they're calling for changes that remove input and role from other characters.
It's unfortunate when you can't attend absolutely everything, of course, but that's also just an unfortunate part of events being possibly planned for all manner of times and places.
And I don't mean
when you go anywhere and end up just spectating. That sucks. It's not fun to go anywhere and be -left out- or to have no input whatsoever (or to feel as if some people are purposely leaving you out by consistently choosing difficult times and areas for you!).
I guess what I mean is someone who refuses to compromise on occasion can make things troubling.